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Mummy's thoughts

Some children bring laughter, some children bring tears. Some create joy while some cause pain. Sometimes the going is tough and other times I hope they can stop growing and remain in their cute persona. Sometimes they bring about misunderstandings among adults and make everyone upset with each other. But despite all this, Im still glad God gave me 3 children.

I cried buckets frequently when I was expecting Donovan. Irrational hormones rages through my system and ruled my emotions. I cried more when I was delivering him. Dominus was truly a precious cause I was totally in control during gestation and delivery. Satisfaction guaranteed. The littlest made me cry uncontrollably too. And so I expect to cry more frequently in his growing stage.

I protect my children's well-being fiercely. And because of that, I offend many people. I ended up appearing unreasonable, demanding and totally unapproachable. I truly believe that parents should bear the biggest responsibility when it comes to disciplining their children. The more spoilt the children are, the more damage caused and the bigger the responsibility and the tougher the job. However, the same equation may not appear the same way to different people. A colleague shared this with me,"Condoning does not mean approving and not scolding you does not mean that whatever you have done is correct." The same behaviour exhibited to different adult brings different reactions and to a kid, they feel more loved when they are scolded less. For every wrong behaviour condoned by someone else, the consequence that comes along is suffered by the kid and the parents, but never the one who subscribed to the consequence. How fair is that?

I have learnt that many things are better left unsaid as truth always hurt. But if I cant be truthful to my own family, who else can I bare my heart to?